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Why I Didn’t Blog

I’m sorry I’ve neglected youPoem

I didn’t plan it so

I’ve been so very busy

I haven’t had a mo


I keep having all these great ideas

Usually when I shower

But by the time I get downstairs

I’ve lost my blogging power


I tell myself I’ll remember it

and of course I never do

Even noting on my phone

it fails on its review


I am still getting ranty

As anyone would say

I just lose the ranty message

by the end of any day


So I’ve failed to log a blog post

I’ve failed to make you smile

I’ve failed to teach you something

It has been quite a while


So I promise I will do one

I’ll post something tonight

Oh look I’ve written something

I hope this is alright.



What’s in a Name or… Telling My Husband I Blog

So, what’s in a name?  Well a lot apparently!  Especially when you have the opportunity to change your name.

 I’m talking blog name of course. I’m planning on going self hosted shortly (paying for my page and getting a personal URL) and so I have this little window of opportunity to sneak in a name change if I so wish. I’m very tempted.

 You see, as well as taking this momentous decision to move to self hosted I decided to come clean to the hubby about my blogging.


It only took 18 months. To be honest, it’s a huge weight off my mind and he took it very well, partly because I was mumbling along trying to find the right words and mentioned something about the laptop and he thought I’d broken it, so to discover I hadn’t, made the impact of my secrecy seem very tame.  He didn’t ask that many questions but I did keep talking about it to make sure he understood what I was saying. He was cool about it. Didn’t seem overly concerned. Didn’t ask for my blog name.  A little later on in the day he didn’t admit to wondering what I blogged about, so I told him the content of the last 3 posts I had done. He was ok about it.  I guess time will tell.

 So, back to my name.  I spent an exceedingly long time picking the one I have now, which sound ridiculous.  I was trying to think of something I could abbreviate and use as my name as well when I was signing off, so Freefalling into 40 (FFF) sounded good. freefallingAs it turned out, I ended up signing off as “the 40 year old” so I’ve never used the shortened version. 

 The name sort of summed up how I felt though.  Like a runaway train, I couldn’t stop my 40’s from happening and it’s kind of a freeing up feeling, free falling.  It’s fun and scary and exhilariting.

 Now, do I want to change it? 

 I was thinking of switching it to just Freefallinginto  or just Freefalling and then doing something with the header to include “40” and then in time (if I should hang about blogging that long) I could change it to 50 or ……..god forbid 60!!! What would I be blogging then?  Information about pensions and bunions?

 Who am I kidding, I’m not far from those topics now!

 So, is that a good idea?

 Or should I COMPLETELY change my name?  Any suggestions welcome. I’ve come up with these rather limp options (none of which I’ve checked):

  •  Fortyandbeyond
  • Beyond40 or BeyondForty
  • Past it
  • AgeingFabulously
  • Runawayage
  • NoFearAfter40
  • FearingForty
  • MidlifeMusings

 Your help would be gratefully received.  Like my current name?  Or fancy one of the new ones?

Merry Christmas

I did have a couple of posts lined up for today and next Friday, but I’m getting the distinct impression from other bloggers that readership is generally down in the lead up to Christmas as everyone is busy with preparations, Christmas parties or just too tired to find the time to read.  So I thought I’d wait until after Christmas before I blogged again.

photo courtesy of 94 sugars .co.uk

photo courtesy of 94 sugars .co.uk

This has been a very exciting year for me so far (still a few weeks to go).  I became a blogger, gained a readership (you lovely people), met other bloggers through my blog or via twitter, met some amazing, funny, entertaining people via twitter and learnt some amazing things through knowing you all.



I would like to wish you all a very very Merry Christmas and hope you will join me after Christmas for some more tales and opinions from the 40 year old (soon to be 41 year old…..arghhhh).

XXX Bella

Why Blog? Seriously?

I thought it was about time I put something up to explain myself. Why am I blogging, what’s with the name, why can’t you see my face.  That sort of thing.  I’m going with an analogy.

At the moment I’m at the back of the class in Aerobics.  I’ve signed up to the latest craze of Step.  Incapable and uncoordinated I’m making a bit of a fool of myself.  However, it’s ok because I’m at the BACK of the class.  I’m watching what is going on, building my confidence and hoping at some point in the future I might actually get to creep a little closer to the front (maybe one row?)

But if you don’t get the Aerobic reference (if you aren’t a gal or guy who spent her/his 20’s intermittently attending the latest fad exercise class) then I’ll explain myself a bit better.

I once blogged. Many moons ago but treated it a bit like a diary and an opportunity for friends back in Australia to find out what I was doing in my life. It was great because I used it to let everyone know when I was finally pregnant after years and years of infertility.   I stopped after a while, it was very self-indulgent and even my avid friends were growing weary of the topics.  I’ve now started this blog, anonymously.  A bit controversial I know and I imagine for all the reasons being anonymous is brilliant, there are plenty more that will result in a hindrance for me. I imagine knowing little about me or not being able to see a face will make it less personal somehow, not sure.  However, from my point of view, it will hopefully mean I’m more likely to post risqué topics (when I get my confidence) and not feel I’m compromising my family in the process.

I’m actually a big twitterer.  I have my real name out there and have followed lots and lots of bloggers (accidentally) in the last year.  I thoroughly enjoy reading their posts, commenting, RT’ing.  But having got a good following from doing nothing more than interacting, I felt a bit cheeky to spring a blog on everyone.  I didn’t want anyone to think I had some sort of tactic in mind when I started.  I genuinely didn’t.  So I’m starting from scratch, I’m following different people, different bloggers and seeing where it takes me.

I’m going to need all the help I can get, but I’m learning from the pros.