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A C-section, Bottle feeding, Nursery using Working Mum

I am really bloody angry.  I’m fed up to the back teeth of people who write articles, blogs or tweets about something that they can take the moral high ground on.  Something they do/don’t do, but they know darn well others do/don’t.

  • Breastfeeding/Bottle feeding
  •  Natural Childbirth/C-sections
  •  Nursery or Childminders/Stay at home care
  •  Stay at home parents and Working parents

The Perfect Scenario – so we are told

You have a baby naturally (no drugs), you sail through breastfeeding (feed as late as possible, but not too late – there’s a whole other brigade ready to leap on you if you do), you Stay at Home until your child is in school (if you don’t do SOMETHING once they’ve started school you WILL be vilified – “What do you do all day?”), you then make sure that your work to homelife balance is just right so you can stay on everyones side.

Life doesn’t work like that.

Nor should it.

I don’t want to live in a world where everyone does the same thing.  I want to live in a world where everyone gets to do what they want to do, they have choice.  Sometimes that choice doesn’t seem like a choice at all, it’s what they have to do, but then we need to make sure that it still works, that its still safe and right.  Hey, and if you get the perfect scenario and it works for you I’m really pleased for you.  Maybe a little bit jealous.Angel Mother

I really don’t give a shit if you breastfeed or not.  I’m pro breastfeeding, I think if you can, you should. If you can’t then bottle feeding is the next best thing.  Give it a good shot. Don’t give it a good shot (especially if it’s a psychological reason), I really don’t care.

Have a baby as safely as you can.

Homebirths sound awesome to me. Could I have done it?  No way. I don’t have that much faith in myself to be able to remain calm.  Every likely situation that may go wrong will be sitting there, right in front of my head.  Wasn’t right for me.  It may be right for you.  Go for it. Gather the information, talk to people, make the decision.

Go to hospital if you like. If that will make you happy, have your lovely baby in the hospital.  Have a go without drugs?  Why not, it’s what we are designed for.

Don’t fancy the pain? Cool. Have some drugs.

Can’t deliver your baby naturally?  Gave it a good shot?  You’re in luck, we have the very best of care in hospitals.  You can have a c-section.

Want to head straight for an elective c-section?  Ooh, controversial.  You must have your reasons. You know the risks, you’ve weighed them up.  Go for it.  You just want the best for you and your baby.  Happy mother, happy baby. I get it.

I could go on.  I might.

The whole SAHM vs Working mum malarkey is starting to really piss me off.  Some people work and some people don’t.  Some people HAVE TO work. Some people don’t. Some people like working outside the home. Some people really enjoying looking after their children full time.  Some people like to mix the two of them up.  GET OVER IT!

Some of us put our children in nursery.  Some of us don’t have the choice.  Some of us are vigilant and would not bat an eyelid at having to take our children out of any situation where we think there might be any danger or where there is inappropriate care.  We are paying attention.  We just think that people should be given the choice and that choice should be safe and right.

I get that the Perfect Scenario is good.

I don’t get that variations on it are bad.

And just for the record.  Every time you post your opinion on something that you know is the opposite of what someone else does, you are putting them down.  You are making yourself feel better about your decisions by making other people feel bad. End of.

However, offering support, supporting those that make different decisions and might be struggling with that and being sympathetic to that, well that costs nothing. It’s actually quite nice.

“You can’t really understand another person’s experience until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.”

Bear that in mind next time.

False Widow Spiders

STOP PANICKINGmr-skinnylegs

We were informed this morning that the nursery had found some false widow spiders in their shed in the garden and we were offered the chance to use their nursery in Teddington.  My husband, quite rightly, asked if they intended shoving the children INTO the shed. When the answer was no, he said, well in that case, as long as they are kept away from it, I’d like to keep him here.

Unfortunately I was phoned up at 2pm asking me to pick The Monster up by 4pm as the whole building our nursery is housed in, was going to be fumigated.  I’m obviously really annoyed this couldn’t be better planned and I’m about to head off on my holiday, so my last day at work was quite important.  Anyway, I did manage to move some stuff around, grovel to my boss and get off early.

The bottom line is though, that these little buggers have been around for quite some time.  They are more prevalent now than ever before, but there are generally more spiders around than there used to be.  The weather is warmer now, insects are abundant and quite naturally, there will be more spiders.

The false widow is venomous, but there has been NO reported deaths here or in Spain and France, where they’ve been around a lot longer.  If you get bitten by anything and start getting symptoms, you should always go to A&E to be on the safe side, but I spent 25 years in rural Australia with 100’s of spidery nooks and crannies and I only recall being bitten once, by an unidentified critter trapped in my clothes.  I went off to a party that afternoon with the instruction to tell someone if I felt unwell.

Here are some Aussie tips on avoiding contact with ANY TYPE of spider:

  • Don’t stick your hand in somewhere where you can’t see inside. If you have to, put on a glove.
  • If you need to get into a bunch of old pots (it might just be me who has a tonne of these at the end of the garden) then I find banging them, chucking them and generally smacking them around with a stick usually sends most spiders packing.
  • Wear gloves when you do any gardening around trees or bushes
  • Before you put on your welly boots, tread on the toe, give the heel a bang on the floor and tip the welly up. If there is anything in there, it’ll either be dead or you can knock it out.
  • Check all the places around your house where they can get in and fill them in.
  • If you have trees or bushes up against the house, they are more likely to use that to gain access to the house (accidentally, you understand, they aren’t burglars) so if you want to prevent that, keep them tidy, cut them back.
  • If you have a spider in the house, by all means spend the time pfaffing around lifting him on to a card and out the door. My approach is kill first, ask questions later.  I love spiders in the garden, but if they are in my house, they are likely to be squished. Sorry.

Or better still, get some chickens. We’ve not had any spiders in the house, for the first time in years and I think it might be because my chickens eat them first.

I think we just need to brace ourselves for a bit of spidery fun in Autumn.  :)


PS:I’m not going to adorn this blog post with an actual picture of a spider. I don’t know about you, but when someone does that on Facebook, I literally can’t look at my timeline for an hour, until it disappears.  I therefore have put up a pic of Mr Skinny Legs from Peppa Pig.